Honesty............. is it really honest?

I don't get it. Honesty is what everyone expects, right? I expect my children to be honest when I ask them a question and if they're not, I teach them to be honest. I expect honesty in my marriage. I know that I'm the only one for my husband and he knows that he's the only one for me. I know the person that my husband is because we share that and I hope he knows me. What I don't get is the relationships not based on honesty. I don't get the dramatic games of who said what and this person is terrible because they said this and you should never talk to them again. I don't get those relationships. I don't understand being turned away when I lay my honest feelings on the table in hopes of salvaging an already difficult relationship. If you say you love and want to be a part of my life, why is it so hard to have a conversation with me? If the relationship is not important enough to you to be saved, that's a sure way to prove it to me.